“I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine.” Bruce Lee
What is expectation?
Expectation (noun) – A strong belief that something will happen or be the case. A belief that someone will or should achieve something. (Oxford Dictionary online)
How often have you been disappointed in life?
Why were you disappointed?
If you take a moment to look at the last time you were disappointed, you will notice that your expected outcome or experience was not met and you were left with a sense of loss.
The reality is that every one will at some stage feel as if they are not able to meet some expectation, or that will feel as if their expectation has not been met. In all cases we want to be able to use expectation to our advantage, to allow expectation to drive us forward and motivate us.
What we want to do on these cases is to take a moment to understand our initial motivation to expect something (x). Then we can look at why we expected (x) in the first place!
This requires you to be honest with yourself!
Ask yourself why you either need to fulfil an expectation or were disappointed by an expectation not being met. What was than need within you that needed to be filled and was not?
Now ask yourself where that expectation came from. Is it a need or desire deep within you, or is it from society, culture, belief or some other source outside of yourself?
Once we have identified this, we can decide if that expectation is worth fulfilling or if we can drop it!
After processing expectation in this way for a while, your subconscious will automatically start to filter and fine tune your expectations for your benefit. Your expectation will become more of a motivation for you to achieve what ever goals you set for yourself easily and efficiently rather than something used to undermine and inhibit you. Let expectation be a wonderful too to help you to focus on your goals and achieve then so you can perpetually be the person that you want to be!