Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
Here is a challenge for you, a challenge as old as the wise men and women, the sages of old. Embrace your bad times, give your drama, that stuff that is, or has the potential to make you miserable. Go on, give it a mental and emotional hug, thank it for being in your life, and appreciate how much depth and flavour that negative stuff has added to your life!
How do you feel about all that negative stuff now?
Does it still have the same amount of power over you?
Notice that not much actually happened to you. You embraced your fears and negativity and you are still here!
Was that so hard?
Allow yourself to see things differently
What you in essence are doing is allowing yourself to see things in your life from a different perspective. Remember when you last attempted a jigsaw puzzle. Remember that crazy piece that you turned around again and again trying to fit it in all over the place. By turning it around and around, you were changing the way you were perceiving that piece, and in so doing, you were solving your problem. By embracing the problem and understanding it, you can solve that problem, by hiding from it, or plastering over it, you cant!
The secret ingredient to this process is patience. Patience allows you to let the problem solving process to mature, and in letting it mature, you have time to strategise and plan a way forward. Patience allows you to gracefully change your perspective so you can move through both good times and bad times with grace and ease.
Give that drama a hug, what have you got to lose?
You may just surprise yourself!