“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
We run around from person to person, from meeting to meeting, from situation to situation and back again, always squeezing in a little bit more, day in day out….
Why do we do this, put ourselves second so we can do stuff for others over and over again?
When do you ever do YOUR stuff?
Those of you who have attended one of my stress courses will remember that the main thrust of the course is to develop conscious awareness of ourselves in our environment so we can then initiate change on our terms.
To do this however we need to find out what it is and why exactly we are under pressure.
The problem with this self analysis is that our logical mind is always trying to please or limit us in accordance to our reference points in society. These reference points very seldom have any bearing to who we actually are.
How many times have you been in traffic, or at work and have been daydreaming about playing golf, or hiking in some mountains, or making great lunch?
This shows that who you are and who you would like to be are two separate levels of consciousness and experience. The trick to relieving stress or pressure in life is to understand the motivation behind what you are doing, and the long term effects on your life that may result from these actions. Once you have documented that, you can then compare your answers to where you would like to be and start to initiate plans to get to where you want to be.
We all have responsibility to face, but we don’t have to suffer while we are fulfilling those responsibilities. In some cases we can choose to either change the responsibility or change the actions we preform to fulfil them. We just need to be aware of what we re doing!
This week, ask yourself WHY
-Why and I doing this?
– What’s in it for me?
– Do I need or want this?
– How will this action get me to where I want to be in life?